Every best-friend relationship starts from somewhere, it may have been an awkward hi-hi moment or a childhood neighbor turned best friend but mine was different. My bff liked me then (don’t know about now??) and then slid into my dm to get to know me better and as God would have it, I no gree?.
I did the typical every girl’s shakara (playing hard to get) moment because I was truly not interested and I just didn’t want anything to do with him so, I became a bit rude, snobbish, etc just to push him away from my life but he no gree?♀️.
So, we stayed friends instead. Once in a while
we he would check up on me and I’d give a one-word response or ignore or block him (I had a thing for blocking people I didn’t like or wanted to ignore and push out of my life?♀️)… don’t look at me I was a teenager and ignorant of my childish ways.
However, as time grew by, I grew really fond of him as he was caring, funny, and truly always there for me, no questions asked (let me stop there before his head starts swelling ?) but he didn’t have the sense – I mean this in the best way possible so, I never really put so much thought of us dating or ending up together as life partners – even though it crossed my mind a few times, until one faithful night?.
We talked about “us” (peradventure, he said) again and it struck me then and there… what if it eventually happens?? I mean, what if, right?
But really, is dating or marrying your best friend a good idea? Like any other relationship, there are pros and cons to consider. Let’s take a closer look at them.
Pros of dating or marrying your best friend?
You already have a strong foundation: One of the biggest advantages of dating or marrying your best friend is that you already have a strong foundation. You know each other’s likes and dislikes, quirks, and pet peeves. You also know each other’s families and friends, which can make things easier when it comes to integrating your lives.
You have a deep understanding of each other: Because you have been friends for so long, you have a deep understanding of each other. You know each other’s strengths and weaknesses, hopes and fears, and you’ve been there for each other through thick and thin. This can make it easier to communicate, resolve conflicts, and support each other in the ups and downs of life.
You share common interests and values: Another benefit of dating or marrying your best friend is that you likely share common interests and values. This can make it easier to plan activities together and to build a life together that is fulfilling for both of you.
You can be your authentic self: When you’re dating or marrying your best friend, there’s no need to pretend to be someone you’re not.
You can be your authentic self and know that you will be accepted and loved for who you are.
Cons of dating your best friend?
It can be hard to transition from friendship to romance: While there are many benefits to dating or marrying your best friend, one of the biggest challenges can be transitioning from friendship to romance. It can be hard to shift your mindset from seeing your friend as just a friend to seeing them as a romantic partner.
It can be challenging to maintain the spark: When you’ve been friends for a long time, it can be hard to keep the spark that comes with a new relationship. You may feel like you already know everything there is to know about each other, and it can be hard to keep things fresh and exciting.
It can be hard to set boundaries: When you’re dating or marrying your best friend, it can be hard to set boundaries. You may be used to sharing everything with each other, and it can be difficult to figure out what’s appropriate to share and what’s not. It can also be hard to maintain your individual identities and avoid becoming too enmeshed with each other.
It can be hard to move on if things don’t work out: Finally, if you date or marry your best friend and things don’t work out, it can be hard to move on. You may lose not only a romantic partner but also a close friend, and it can be hard to find someone who can fill both of those roles.
Well, no you know that dating or marrying your best friend can be a great decision for some people, but it’s not without its challenges. If you’re considering taking your friendship to the next level, it’s important to weigh the pros and cons carefully and to communicate openly with your friend or best friend.
P.S. Be happy and keep on smiling… always ??!