The feeling and fear of rejection is painful, i mean when it happens you just start regretting and wishing you didn’t take that step that lead go your rejection but sometimes it’s okay to try and then get rejected than not to try at all.
Hii lovely, let me use this moment to apologize for not updating you last week with some relationship tips and advice. You know how things can be sometimes; busy, busy, and still busy 🤦♂️.
However, I have got you covered this week. I will try not to be too lazy again 😅.
WHAT IS THE FEAR OF REJECTION?
This is simply a feeling in the mind. It may seem deeper than that but its mainly rooted in the mind.
For instance: you want to walk up to a person, maybe a pretty girl you saw and kinda liked but you worry and start asking yourself questions like, what if she doesn’t like me? What if this and what if that?
It’s all in the mind!
And because of this fear, you relent from walking up to her (taking the risk), and seeing if she might just like you too (reaching big goals).
And sometimes you relent because you don’t want to get hurt or heartbroken.
Steps to getting over your fear of rejection:
1. REMEMBER, YOU’RE NOT ALONE IN THIS 🙂.
With this, let me tell you a STORY of my own.
I happen to have this fears too. And it has kept me from so much (i must say.)
However, I met a GUY, a special one (if i may add.)
He and I hit off on a different kind of connection. I mean it made sense, we had our moments and 2 weeks into just meeting each other it felt like we’ve known each other for years already.
Now you know how love can be, the euphoric feeling filling up your heart and mind; he took a crazy step and asked me to be his girlfriend.
I was sceptical about it as we had just met like 2 weeks ago (you know 😏.) So, i thought deep about it.
Normally, my usual, quick step would have being a straight up NO (like man, get out😅) but i decided to also take a chance on him as he did too.
It was a big risk and step for me but after the relationship ended (sadly 💔😅) I was mostly thankful for everything rather than regret. I was glad i didn’t let my fears stop me.
My point exactly is that everyone gets rejected in one way or the other.
But imagine taking that rejection and learning its lesson and moving on instantly.
Or, better still taking the bold STEP and saying yes to that RISK. Who knows what could come out of it? Maybe it will change your life FOREVER!
2. REMIND YOURSELF CONSTANTLY: You’re Worth More Than Rubies
Yes, this words maybe hard to believe as you have all these negative thoughts going up in your head, that keeps making you feel sad or low about yourself.
- Tell yourself the opposite of those words.
- Speak great words to yourself everytime! Like declarations, “you’re beautiful, you’re special, you’re to win!”
- Look into the Mirror, smile and tell yourself , “I’m worth more than rubies” and don’t leave immediately, keep saying it till you believe it.”
3. IT’S ALL IN YOUR HEAD, STOP THINKING YOU’RE NOT ENOUGH.
Most times this thoughts or feeling of not being enough results from , “INFERIORITY COMPLEX.”
And this is simply the feeling of inadequacy, where one feels like he or she is not enough and every other person (peers) is better than them.
However, you must know that inferiority complex (low-self esteem) can be fixed if you truly BLOCK ALL NEGATIVE WORDS AND ACCEPT ONLY POSITIVE WORDS AND AFFIRMATIONS (no matter how true this negative words may be.)
4. FIND WHAT FRIGHTENS YOU THE MOST ABOUT YOUR FEARS.
The word “fear” STANDS for:
F _ FAKE
E _ EVIDENCE
A _ APPEARING
R _ REAL
This word, fear, can keep one from actually getting to the top, and achieving there dreams. You may think uts only affecting one part of your life until it starts spreading to your career, opportunities and more.
Finding what really fears you is the MOST IMPORTANT STEP to take in getting rid of it.
- Ask yourself, ” What am I most afraid of in rejection?”
- TIPS: The answer is within you. You can try to hide from it all you want but the earlier, the better lovely.
- Accept your fears.
FOR INSTANCE: I’m afraid of heights. The reason I fear height is; I fear that i’d fall flat down and probably die. Now that’s my reason, What’s yours?
HINT: In this case, you have the fear of rejection because you don’t want to experience the feelings of heartbreak and loneliness.
You fear if you enter a relationship now, it won’t last and the inevitable will occur. Like cheating and more.
Well, if its true then, realizing your fears can help you prioritize developing strong friendships. That’s is spending more time with friends you have a strong bond with _in the case of loneliness.
5. FACE YOUR FEARS
Now that you may have found what’s wrong and why you are so afraid, why not stand up to it?
Face it! They say in order to get rid or overcome your fears you have to face it. Take a chance!
Because, “The things you regret the most in life are the things you didn’t do, the chances you didn’t take, the opportunities, the love and more.”
Remember, you are worth more than Rubbies ❤💫!
P.S. Be going na, are you still waiting for the continuation of my love story 😏? It have finish 😅😅!
DON’T FORGET TO BE HAPPY , SMILE 🙂